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Communication Tips

Speaking so that your partner will listen

There are a few simple rules to follow to ensure that your partner will be more open to listening to your concerns.

Self Care

Tips to Manage Anxiety through Mindfulness and Self-Compassion

Life can be difficult. Knowing how to soothe yourself and practice self-compassion is important for helping to manage anxiety, stress, and depression.

Conflict Reduction

How to Escape the Attack and Defend Cycle

Many couples find themselves in the attack and defend cycle. Learn why this tends to happen and how you can break out of this cycle.

Communication Tips

10 Hidden Breaches Of Trust Damaging Your Relationship

Is there something in your relationship that feels off? I breakdown Dr. Gottman’s 10 other ways to betray your lover, so you can address what’s not working in your relationship before it’s too late.

Conflict Reduction

Why Can’t My Partner Read My Mind?

Couples need to give up the myth that their partner can read their mind, and instead, they need to figure out what they want, need, and expect in the relationship and communicate that openly to their partner.

Conflict Reduction

The 5 Levels of Attack

Do you have the same disagreements with your partner without a healthy resolution? Understanding the five levels of attack can help you break this cycle.

Communication Tips

Remove This Word From Your Relationship

Stop making demands, start making requests. Follow these tips to restore your relationship and build a deeper connection with your partner.

Communication Tips

4 Tips to Focus Your Conflicts

When conflict arises in your relationship it can be hard to focus on your needs rather than the problems at hand. Here are 4 tips to help.

Conflict Reduction

Do You Know Your Triggers?

Past experiences shape how we perceive and interpret outside information. Learn how to identify your triggers and how they affect your relationship.

Communication Tips

Is Conflict Good for My Marriage?

Avoiding conflict isn’t helping your relationship. It’s actually creating larger problems under the surface. Is their resentment hiding in your relationship? If so, what should you do about it?

Self Care

What Is Emotional Safety and Why Is It Important for Your Relationship?

Emotional safety is important for your relationship and to fully connect with our partner. Learn about the three main components of emotional safety and how they contribute to a healthy relationship.

Self Care

5 Ways to Self Soothe

Self-soothing consists of giving yourself care and comfort to calm down and regulate your emotions. It’s important to do this after an argument so you don’t build anger and resentment toward your partner.

Barbi Pecenco, LMFT

Relationship Matters

Speaking so that your partner will listen

Tips to Manage Anxiety through Mindfulness and Self-Compassion

How to Escape the Attack and Defend Cycle

10 Hidden Breaches Of Trust Damaging Your Relationship

Why Can’t My Partner Read My Mind?

The 5 Levels of Attack

Remove This Word From Your Relationship

4 Tips to Focus Your Conflicts

Do You Know Your Triggers?

Is Conflict Good for My Marriage?

What Is Emotional Safety and Why Is It Important for Your Relationship?

5 Ways to Self Soothe

What are you really arguing about?

Relationship Matters

Barbi Pecenco, LMFT

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What You Are Really Arguing About